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Granny's Advice By Rosaleen Dickson, BA, MJ
- Dear Great Granny.
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Hello!!
My son is always getting into trouble in school and at home. I'm at wits end with what to do. We've tried everything we can think of, from meds, to taking things from him to family advice, nothing seems to help!!! Please help me to get my son Back!!!!!!! I love him dearly but I can't continue to go on like this.. I'm wearing myself down and not getting anywhere.
WHAT CAN I DO ????
SCHOOL IS ALWAYS CALLING, AND NOW GETTING DETENTION AFTER DETENTIONS .. WHERE CAN I GO WHAT CAN I DO????
PS. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks,
- Dear wits end,
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Perhaps too much is being expected of him. Is there any way you could lower your expectations, demand less of him.
Go to the school and talk with his teacher. Maybe the school is also demanding too much. Perhaps he should not be trying to do work which is beyond his capabilities.
Talk frankly with your son about this. Ask him to tell you what things bother him the most and see if you can make his home life easier on him. I'm sure you expect your son to be tidy, clean, polite, helpful, considerate and much more, but maybe your standards in all these things are higher than he can achieve. I'm not suggesting that your son in retarded, but it is quite possible that you expect him to be a high achiever while he is just average.
Spend as much time as possible listening to him. Ask his opinion and then take the time to listen to everything he has to say. Don't demand an immediate answer. Let him think about the question for a while and don't interrupt his thoughts.
I hope you can get closer to your son and eventually find ways to make his life more bearable so he won't always resort to trouble-making.
Good luck,
GG.
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