I am a 20 year old woman who has been in a relationship for 5 years now. We basically grew up together and we love each other very much. We are planning to get married as soon as I am finished college which I have two more years to go. He has just left for the navy and I am very depressed, but I do understand that he is doing this for us and our life in the future, or so he says.
I spend a lot of time with his mother and his family because it makes me feel better to be around them. But when I am feeling low, what should I do. I write him often and he does me, but it is just not the same as having him here. I am so used to just being able to talk to him about anything and how I feel about everyday life.
See, he is also my best friend and I just feel so alone. His mother says I just need to take each day one at a time, but that does nothing for me. Plus I need to find a way to cope because I have school work to concentrate on, and whenever I am in deep thought about my lesson I find myself drifting off and wishing he was here.
I tried taking an extremely challenging schedule so I would be too busy to think about him, but now I am afraid that I won't be able to handle it because I am so distracted.
I need some advice if you please.
thank you so much.
-desperately missing my love.
Just live through it. Remember that you are the one special woman he wants to come home to so you mustn't let yourself fail in school or turn into a worrying nervous wreck while he's away. Do whatever it takes to keep on track and improve each day. You owe that to him.
Also don't deprive yourself of friends by sitting around and moping about him. For all you know he's having a great adventure himself, and making new friends. You don't want to be a mess when he comes back. Smarten up. Improve yourself. Take the responsibility for yourself and BE the wonderful person he is dreaming about. Just because he's not within reach that doesn't mean he isn't still a part of your life. Think of him while you are doing the best for yourself. Be as kind to everyone else as you would be to him, if he were here.
When people look at you they know you are his girl friend so make him proud by being a great, bright, cheerful, interesting person. Force yourself to stop pouting and moaning and being sorry for yourself.
I could write a book about being in love with someone who is half way around the world. Our experiences during World War 2 were unbelievable but lots of us lived through it somehow so I know it's possible.
Be proud of him and make him proud of you.
Good luck,
GG
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