I am at my wit's end with my sister-in-law. I had just got married over 2 months ago. My husband lived at home until we decided to move out together and get married.
The problem? She expected my husband to become a father to her 3 yr old son because she is on the out's with the child's father. She constantly make comments and remarks about how my husband has to step up to the plate and be a "dad"
When we just got home from our honeymoon, she told me that her son did not want us to get married and he doesn't know who I am. She only includes my husband in his life and leaves me out. This child does not want anything to do with me. All of this makes me uncomfortable.
I talk to my husband about this and he tells me that if it doesn't bother him, then why should it bother me? It is just words. Then he told me to say something if it bothers me so much. I told him he should be the one saying it to her.
When I invited my mother-in-law over she threw a fit because she wasn't asked. So she told her son to go and cry to my husband and then they all won't go out. She then remarked on how much he was crying for his uncle. She loved that.
I have a problem with that. I need some advice because I don't want to be around her to often anymore.
Ask your husband to decide which family is most important to him. If he chooses to make being "father" to his nephew his major role, then you should find other people to be "family" with. If he decides that being a husband to you is most
important, then his sister will have to find another father figure for her son.
Not an easy choice, but obviously he can't have both because if he chooses the child over you, he also has chosen his sister and all her infantile ways of gaining his attention.
His sister needs counselling. If you can somehow survive until she gets her head straightened out, you might rescue your marriage. Otherwise I can't see anything but grief ahead.
While you're waiting for that lady to put her ducks in a row you might consider occupying yourself with interests totally away from the family. Without actually walking out on your poor beleaguered husband you could just get busy with things that don't include any of them. Eventually, the horror scene you are now enduring might pass and things could get back to normal.
One other choice you have is to just put up with things the way they are. Not easy, but then who ever promised "easy"?
Good luck.
GG
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