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Granny's Advice By Rosaleen Dickson, BA, MJ
- Dear Great Granny.
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My grandson, 2 years old bites,hits and pinches. One minute he is great and the next minute he will bite, etc. He even bit his mother who he adores. He seems to be in turmoil. At home, he can be sent to his room, put in his
crib, or have time out. It is when he is out that he is worse. We tried to talk to him, to tell him, if he want to bite, to bite a pretzel, but it doesn't seem to help. He is very bright, and can sit and do arts and crafts projects if you show him. He doesn't like to be read to, but he does play well. He likes children, but it is very embarrassing when he does these
anti-social behaviors.
Is there something wrong. He eats very little, doesn't sleep well, but sometimes he does better than other times.
Thank you/
- Dear worried grandmother,
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Sounds pretty normal to me, for a two year old. He needs lots of attention from his parents. Maybe not so many arts and crafts projects and more personal attention. He needs to be held and hugged a lot because he feels insecure, never knows for sure that his support people, parents, will come back whenever they leave him.
Biting and pinching is an expression of his passion and at two, that's about all he can think of. If people will kiss him and hug him often, he might get the message and his "love making" will hurt less.
An old spoon and a pile of mud would be more satisfying than expensive so-called "educational" toys. Playing with noisy pot-covers on the floor by the pots and pans cupboard right beside mother cooking supper is educational, believe it or not.
But all the above suggestions are of more use to the child's mother. I don't know what you can do about it except love him and don't even notice his bad habits. The more you talk about them, the worse they will be. You'll be pleased to know that by the time he is three he will probably never bite anyone again.
Yours sincerely,
GG
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