Your daughter is right, you ARE jealous. But that's not a crime, it's just a fact. You shouldn't be surprised that she tells you all about this new family she has married into - after all, just the fact that she cares to tell you is a sign that she wants to communicate with you. Show an interest. This is all new to her so let her know you care too.
It's only natural that you may have run out of interesting and exciting things to talk about with her because you two know eachother so well. Only things that are new and different will become conversation pieces. How about moving along with your own life and finding some new and interesting things to do that you can tell her about?
Don't complain about infrequent calls or visits. Don't even mention it. Let her find a balance in her life, as you did in
yours not so long ago. Don't judge her about what she is doing, and for goodness sake don't compare that young couple's attitude towards you and their other in-laws. That's just self-defeating.
Strengthen yourself as a person and don't rely on your daughter's attitude or activities to determine your own
happiness. You had years and years with her - now let her move along and determine her own life.
It's a mistake to let anyone else take over you happiness. Make yours for yourself, and then share it with your daughter if she is still interested.
I hope you understand what I mean, and good luck.
Yours truly,
GG
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