My mother-in-law is constantly causing problems between my husband and I. She calls him about every little thing I do complaining and he gets angry at me when I say I would like to confront her about this. She calls him with every
little problem she has and finds every way imaginable to disrupt our lives. I have simply had it and would like to give this woman a piece of my mind.
This woman has little morals or values she was supposed to be getting married for the 8th time in February but the man passed away. At this mans funeral she looked at me and said the only reason I'm so upset is because he was so
wealthy and if we had married I would never have had to work again. Now she has found a new money man and is having a huge wedding which I feel is totally inappropriate. I know as do others that she is simply marrying this
man for his money. Which totally disgusts me.
After she met her now future husband she told our children that the man they knew as her husband and their grandfather (hubby#7) was dead. We did not know that she told them this until we ran into their grandfather in the
grocery store one day.
My question to you is should I confront her with her behaviors or should I let her continue to cause tension in our home and lie to our children and us?
Don't rock the boat. Don't interfere with her life because it's working in your best interest. As long as she keeps finding men to live with she will stop bothering your husband about every little thing.
Her behaviour is her own business, not yours. Why should you butt in? You would certainly not want her to start telling you how to live your life, so don't tell her how to live hers.
As for the children, just tell them the truth. Don't stand in judgment over your mother in law. It's not your job to decide
whether she is right or wrong in wanting to have a man to support her. Never criticize the various grandfathers, or the
reasons why they married your mother in law. That's her business, not yours.
I'm not saying I think it's a great way to live, but on the other hand who gave us the right to decide for other people? If
there's something about the way she carries on in her home that bothers you, just stay away. If she lies to the children, you can tell them the real story later. Meanwhile, don't let anything you might say spoil their respect for their grandmother.
I hope, for your sake, that her next alliance will be a long one so she will stop upsetting you.
Truly yours,
GG
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