What can you do?
Survive.
Maybe they don't hate each other as much as it seems. Maybe they just don't have any way of showing friendliness towards each other so they fight all the time.
Children do that. Siblings fight. Mine are grown now and though they all lead very different lives they help each other and would do anything for each other. But when they were young they seemed never to stop fighting. I truly believed that they hated each other, as you do now. But they grew out of it and now they can hardly believe me when I tell them how devastated I was, watching them "hate" each other as children.
So I can't explain it. It's just a fact of childhood. They fight. There are people who study this phenomenon in books and
might come up with some psychological explanation but in the end it's just the same. There is no solution. Time is all it takes.
Keeping them apart works when they are babies but as they grow up they choose to be with each other, and they choose to make life miserable for each other. The older girl is doing her part in making the younger one furious. It takes two, and each is playing her chosen role. Even if they realized how miserable it makes you, they wouldn't stop. It's possible that your misery is part of their need. Who knows?
All of a sudden one day you'll notice that they have not fought for a while and that will be that. Until that day - grin and
bear it. You are not alone. If you come up with a solution, write a book. It will be a best seller!
Truly yours,
GG
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