Of course he says he loves you, but he loves himself more.
He's also still in the clutches of his wife who only has to fuss and
call him names to keep him in her power.
Since you were dating a married man for a long time, and now have even
moved in with him, it's too late now to suggest that it would have been
wiser to wait for him to break his previous ties before even dating him.
Perhaps you could think of that the next time you become attracted to
someone who is already taken.
People have different standards of behaviour and some would say
uncategorically that your boyfriend still belongs to his wife, until
they become legally separated. But we all know that things aren't as
simple as that. However, I don't think that young man belongs to you
either. In fact, it looks to me as if his main concern is for himself
and when your fling with him is over I hope you will find a partner who
has more concern for your feelings than for his own. That's the basis of
love, you know, and without that sort of mutual caring your current
affair is doomed.
No matter how convenient your liaison is today, you can never expect
anything but more and more disagreement over his wife. She has legal
grounds to claim him and you have no grounds at all. Since he chooses to
remain in that situation to avoid a fuss, and some name-calling, well, I
can't see much of a future for you with such a man?
Enjoy him as long as YOU choose to, and then get on with your own life.
No matter what has gone on between you thus far, he has no claim on you
and in no way should he be dominating, or even directing your life. He
can't even control his own.
Sincerely,
GG
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