Having babies is a gamble. We never know what we are getting, and when the baby arrives that's just the beginning of a series of surprises that never ends. As they grow up there is no guarantee that they will be beautiful, brilliant, or even sane. As to sexual orientation, that too is unknown when they are babies. There are external signs that indicate that they will probably be male or female, but sometimes the external signs are wrong.
Whatever they grow up to be, they are still our children, and the one most important of all the things we can give to them is unconditional love. Not a love that depends on anyhthing at all except that they are our children.
I believe it is abnormal for parents to be "heartbroken" to discover that their child shows homosexual tendencies.. If he is gay, then so be it. We don't really know how abnormal that is because there is no way of determining the gay proportion of the population. There are many, many gay people who hide their inclinations due to misunderstandings in the general public. Often they marry and raise families; and very often they are leaders in their communities.
Have you noticed how many great creative geniuses are gay? Do you know which of our leading politicians, scienctists, musicians, artists and financial wizards are gay? Does it bother you that a large proportion of the stars of stage, screen and TV are gay? I don't suppose you really care one way or another; you just don't want YOUR sons to be gay.
Well, that's too bad. I wish you would stop going to counselors, priestrs and so forth and spend your energy supporting your sons in everything they are trying to achieve. You will one day be so proud of all your children, don't impede their progress now by pretending that being gay is a crime or a disease or "a rebellious act." It isn't. It's just like being born with red hair or dimples. They are what they are. Unfortunately, for many years recently society has been propagandized into thinking there is something wrong with being gay, while having dimples or red hair is not frowned upon. Take your lovely children into your heart exactly as they are and I promise you that your life, and theirs, will be full of happiness. Whereas, if you persist in thinking of them as being somehow wrong, you will all suffer to the end of your days.
It's up to you to decide now, and what you choose to do about it will affect the rest of your life, and theirs. Enjoy your child as he is and make sure that he feels totally comfortable and safe and loved in his own home.
Yours sincerely,
GG
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